In times of old, The Furies protected Mother Right. If a mother (or any woman) was harmed, The Furies swooped down and took their vengeance. They were one of the last vestiges of a world that existed before the patriarchy. When we feel righteous anger, it is The Furies who are calling out to us to make what is wrong right again.

Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Changing My Mind 

What have I been doing? Where am I? Some of you have been asking me these questions. Well, I've been adjusting to winter. Mario calls it the winter that just won't quit. I'm looking out at the gorge cliffs across the way. The mist and clouds have parted a bit so that I can see the sugar powdery snow. Today snow, sleet, and rain has fallen from our gray skies. We did have a brief glimpse of “sunshine.” (Personally, I think it's a myth, this sun thing.) I am grateful that I am in this nice cozy house.

I've been resting, reading, catching up on library work, visiting friends, cooking, watching the landslide, watching movies, watching TV, reading, sewing, and sleeping. I mentioned in another post that this year is the year I'm going to "change my mind," and I'm working on that. I just finished reading Train Your Mind, Change Your Brain by Sharon Begley. It's not a self-help book, although the title sounds like it. We heard the author on NPR; she's a writer for the Wall Street Journal.

The first thirty some pages were very hard to read because it was all about these horrible experiments they did on animals. After wading through that I had to put the book down for about a month and then start again. She writes about research that shows the plasticity of the brain—from the time we're born until we die. She talks about recent research on the mind and the brain. Apparently they've discovered that for depression antidepressants and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy work about the same, until the person on medication stops taking the medication. There's a high amount of relapse for depression. The depression relapse rate is goes down substantially when someone does mindfulness-based cognitive therapy instead of medication.

This research was primarily conducted in Canada where the pharmaceutical companies don't have such a stranglehold on the scientists. The researchers are applying these methods in the UK. What they've found is that a person can actually change their brain and stop depression and obsessive compulsive behaviors (including eating disorders and addictions) without medication. It's amazing stuff.

Anyone who has more than a passing interest in FS knows that I have struggled with depression and anxiety for all of my life. Mi familia has a history of depression, anxiety, OCD, alcoholism, and eating disorders. I have said for years that I believe all of these conditions are related, and this book seems to validate that belief—or at least the "cure" for these conditions appears to be similar. (Does that make sense?)

I have believed for years that medication for these disorders was not the Holy Grail. I've also believed that "talk therapy" was not the answer, at least not for me. I have suspected for years that "talk therapy" was actually detrimental for people with depression. (Once again the UK is ahead of the US on this issue.)

In other words I was right and everyone else is just catching up with me. And I wish the scientific community would move a little faster because I (and millions of other people) need their help. It's difficult to find mindfulness-based cognitive therapy practitioners in the US. I've talked with someone in Portland who does something similar, so I'm hoping to do a session with her and start to retrain my brain.

This reminds me. I had the most wonderful conversation with my mother-in-law a few days ago. (I dedicated Broken Moon to her.) She loved the book, so it was fun to talk about that, of course. But then she said to me (and imagine all of this said in her Eastern European-accented English), “You know, Kim, twenty times a day I think of you and I say to people my daughter-in-law was saying all of this for years, for twenty years. All about the environment, the global warming, the organics, everything. I say she’s right about everything! She knew.” And I just got a kick out of her telling me this. I believe in praise. I believe in being full of oneself (who else to be full of). People don’t praise enough. For one thing, we don’t know how to take praise. I often don’t know what to say when someone is nice to me. Do you have that experience? When someone is nasty to me I almost always know what to say and do. I have those survival instincts honed.

I don’t think we’re taught to be kind to one another, not really. We’re taught to be “nice,” polite, I suppose. But we don’t praise people because they might get “too big for their britches.” (I’m really “in love” with the quotation marks tonight, aren’t I?) Anyway, I think we should praise one another and accept praise. I see my mother-in-law as my friend, but I also see her as another parent, so it’s doubly nice to have her acceptance. I asked Mario if his mother always praised him. And he said yes. I was in awe. “Wow,” I said. “What’s that like?” He said, “It feels really nice.”

So I hope you have people in your life who praise you. Although my mother’s advice is probably very good advice: She told me when I was quite young that I should look in the mirror and tell myself that I was beautiful because I couldn’t count on other people to do that. I think when adults praise children, however, they are helping them grow into adults who can look in the mirror and say, “Ain’t I wonderful!”

Speaking of wonderful and getting back to brain research, they’ve discovered that what the brain needs, especially as we get older, is new experience. Everything we do creates pathways in the brain. If we do the same thing over and over (including experiencing depression) that particular pathway (or rut) becomes thicker, more substantial. As we get older and we keep doing the same things over and over the brain is not getting the "attentional workout" that it needs. We need to experience new things so that new neurons and pathways are created, and this gives the brain the "attentional workouts.”

It's 6:00 p.m. Mario will be home in a few minutes, so I'll stop. I've also been learning to smell again—talk about rewiring my brain. It's been wonderful. But that discussion is for another time.

You’re all wonderful!

May the Beauty of the New Moon be upon you.
May the Beauty of the Full Moon be upon you.
May the Beauty of the soaring eagle be upon you.
May the Beauty of a spring day be upon you.
May you know love, may you know love, may you know love.

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Vicki Noble Interview 

Here's an online "gaialogue" where Joanna Harcourt-Smith interviews Vicki Noble. I'm in the process of listening to it myself, and Vicki's fascinating, as always. 1 comments

Monday, February 26, 2007

It's Here! 

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Broken Moon is out, and it just got a STARRED review from Publisher's Weekly. I am so tickled. It is my first starred review. When a new book comes out, people always ask me what they can do to help get the word out. I make these suggestions to those who want to help: Ask your local library to get Broken Moon. This is easy to do. You can call them, or you can go to their website and just request it. There's usually an online form. Call any area bookstores and ask them if they have it. If the book actually gets on a shelf in a bookstore, then someone is more likely to see it and buy it. (Something about the Law of Physics or somethin'.) And of course, talk about it. Word of mouth is the best avenue for publicity for a book like this.

(Of course I'd like you to read it, too, but I never ask. That's just a family rule. We don't ask people if they've read our work. We do ask them if they've bought a copy. C'mon.)

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Friday, February 16, 2007

Slip-Slidin' Away 

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Ah, home. (Where is home, exactly?) We've come back to the Pacific Northwest in time to witness a massive landslide.

The Earth moves here. We learned that the first week we moved to the PNW twenty-four years ago: part of Highway 101, the main road on the coast where we lived, slid a couple hundred feet away, into the ocean. I remember seeing the photograph of the road and the slide and being astonished—and a bit concerned. Where on Earth had I moved to?

Now we live between the mountains in the Cascades, near the Columbia River. If you looked at a topographical map of this area, you would see the names of the various slide areas. The Earth moves. Always has. We have earthquakes, mudslides, landslides, volcanic eruptions. And a whole lot of rain. The mudslides and landslide are exacerbated by logging and development which can damage aquifers. The aquifers help the ground drain (among other things) and if they're damaged the ground obviously can't drain as well and landslides occur.

In the last three hours of our trip from Arizona, we heard on the radio that part of our town was slip-sliding away. Once we got home, I wandered around town until I found a place where I could see the area that was sliding. The homeowners of one house that officials believed was going to go over the cliff had evacuated. Exhausted and out of money, they abandoned the house to the slide. The year before, they moved the house away from the cliff with the help of neighbors and friends. When the hillside began to crack and move again recently, they decided enough was enough. I walked down the closed road and was astonished and awed at the crack in the earth. (The photos do not do it justice—none of the photographs I took really show the magnitude of what is happening.)

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Then I went up to a new development across the creek gorge from this cleft in the earth. It was the first time I had seen this development. About twenty houses have recently been built here. They are all huge, costing about $600,000, give or take slightly. I live in one of the poorest counties in the state. We have a shortage of housing, shortage of land, and shortage of affordable housing. And I mean affordable housing for middle-income people. It seemed obscene, or something, to see all these immodest homes built above us all.

I went to the edge of the cliff (near where many of the houses had been built) and looked out at the hillside that was falling away. I stood next to many of my townspeople. We said to one another, "Who in our town can afford these houses?" These houses were being bought by people who don't live here. We talked about the movie It's A Wonderful Life. (Twice in the space of a week, someone brought up this aspect of that movie.) Remember how Jimmy Stewart's character built affordable houses for the townspeople? Someone said, "We need Jimmy Stewart now." I said, "When is enough enough?" As we watched the ground slipping away across from us, I thought about how the gap is growing in our country between the haves and the have nots.

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(last week)

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(this week, Wednesday)

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(Wednesday, house is now visible since trees fell)

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In the days that followed, we heard that the county engineer thought one thing would happen to the cliff and the geologist thought another thing would happen. The elected officials asked the Corps of Engineers if they could dredge the creek before the slide. Those in the know feared that a giant landslide would cause a massive flood that would take out one to three of our bridges as well as flood parts of the downtown. Eventually all the different agencies agreed that this was an emergency and they gave permission for the dredging to begin. (Because of the dams on the Columbia River, many rivers and creeks in this area cannot do what they do naturally: drain. Sediment builds up so that few (if any) of the creeks and rivers run naturally any more. They should run downhill into the Columbian, but the buildup of sediment (because of the dams) prevents this drainage and clogs up the creeks and rivers.

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(before dredging)

For four days, men and their machines remade our creek—the creek that runs through our town and is out water source. Above, the county had a man posted around the clock to watch the hillside. They figured that if the hill came down all at once and clogged the gorge, they'd have about an hour to get people out of the creek and to evacuate those homes downtown that would be flooded before the water could break through the newly-formed earthen dam. Everyone hoped that scenario would not unfold. The hope was that the hill would come down slowly.

Six to eight CAT excavators—they call them backhoes here—worked around the clock. In the beginning, it looked so chaotic that we crossed our fingers that they knew what they were doing. And it was a spectator sport. Many townspeople came out and stood on the old bridge and breathed in diesel fumes while they watched the work.

First the men drove the CATS into the creek and moved rock from one side (and the bottom of) the creek to the other side and created a deep channel so that if it did flood it wouldn't knock out the bridge and our sewer system. Once that job was completed, they moved the earth they had piled on one side into the back of dump trucks. The trucks hauled the dirt away to another place near the creek and used the dirt to create a berm to protect the sewage treatment plant in case the creek flooded. The men worked in teams, two CATS next to each other. The machines were close together, and the diggers went into the earth and up again, swinging around, but they never hit each other. One man and machine (and they were all men) dug the earth out of the ground and creek and put it in a pile while the other man and his machine took the earth from that pile and dropped it into the back of a dump truck. Every once in a while, they would pick up one boulder and deposit it on the top of the pile. The movement seemed so gentle and delicate that it took my breath away. Mario and I were both mesmerized by these mechanical dances. (I said to Mario, "If these men make love the way they work, they have some very happy partners.)

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(southern view, while dredging)

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(after dredging)

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(north view, while dredging)

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(after dredging)

Because of the diesel fumes, I didn't stay long on the bridge. (Yes, I can smell diesel fumes, although I don't recognize them as diesel fumes. More on that in another post.) I did go up to the heights several times and watched as earth slid into the creek. Sometimes we'd hear a crack and a pine tree would fall into the gorge. Soon the fallen trees created a kind of beaver dam in the creek. Rain fell for days, so the creek ran faster and higher, and this helped clear out the sediment.

I couldn't sleep some nights. It felt like everyone was on pins and needles. Someone said it was like we were all waiting for the birth of a baby. It was as though the whole town was waiting for catastrophe. Or a birth. After one sleepless night, I went down to the river at 4:30 a.m., and I watched the machines work in the creek.

Tuesday, the men and their machines ended their work. They had dredged the creek—remade it—and completed the berm. Wednesday, the hill began sliding in earnest. All day it slip-slided into the gorge. The creek was a carmel-colored torrent. Down by the bridge the water raced—stirring, stirring, stirring everything up.

Thursday, the slide stopped, and the hill stabilized—for now. This morning I walked around our creek. They had ripped out most of the riparian trees, although they left the trees that take longer to grow (like the conifers). I stopped and talked with a retired biologist who was taking pictures, and he said the willows and other trees would come back fairly quickly. I noticed they hadn't pulled up the roots of the trees, so maybe the roots would continue to stabilize the banks until the trees came back up again.

Now I'm home. I've been in a funk since we got home—got to this place. Up on the hill in the rain and the cold as I watched and listened to the earth move with my fellow citizens, I felt at home—and I felt alien. This morning as I walked alongside the creek, it looked familiar and strange to me. And the world was so gray and dark and soggy. I felt like I was in Russia at the end of winter. Everything feels strange to me. Everything is changing. Everything is always changing. Go with the flow. This place didn't really feel like home until Linda and I became friends. Now she's gone. I feel rootless again. I want to be like those big old-growth trees in Falling Creek: deep and old and rooted in all that is.

I keep remembering that dream I had when I was in New Mexico ten years ago. In the dream I put my hand in this hand (see picture), and the Earth poured up through my fingers, held my hand, and said, "This is home."

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At the time I thought the dream meant New Mexico was my home; when I told Linda my dream, she said it meant my body was my home. This morning, my fingers ached. (Was someone or something hanging on too tight?) Everything aches. Everything feels wrong. On New Year's Day, I made myself an unusual pledge—since I never make New Year's resolutions. I promised myself I would change my mind. Somehow I would change my mind—and I would find my home in my body and on this planet.

Today, I still feel like a visitor.

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Thursday, February 15, 2007

Oh When I Find My Life 

Oh, I will free the bird in me
Oh, when I find my life.
What I always knew could be
Oh, when I find my life.
I will see the truth in me
Oh, when I find my life.
Oh, when I find my life.

I will let go the pain
Oh, when I find my life.
I will reach beyond the strain
Oh, when I find my life.
Fear of lost and fear of pain
Oh, when I find my life.
Oh, when I find my life.

I remember all the games of shame
And all the lies you told me.

I have worked so hard to learn
And flunked so far in my attempts to let it go by, dear.

And it's so easy
I just opened my eyes.
And it's so hard
To let go.

Oh, I will free the bird in me
Oh, when I find my life.
I will be what I wanna be
Oh, when I find my life.
I am here and I am free.
Oh, when I find my life.

Oh, when I find my life.
Oh, when I find my life.
Oh, when I find my life.


Just heard this song written by Marianne Faithfull (and sung by Dana Fuchs) at the end of SherryBaby. (You can go here and listen to part of it.) Achingly beautiful and poignant. (And Maggie Gyllenhaal was amazing as Sherry.)

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Bonjour 

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Hello m'dears. Isn't this a wonderful graphic? It's a gift from Cate Kerr. I love it and wanted to share it with you. I'm home, and we've been dealing with a huge landslide in process in our little town. That has occupied most of my thoughts and much of my time. (We aren't in danger.) Someone said it's like we're all waiting for the birth of a baby. (I'll write more about it later.) I've also been getting caught up with library work. And missing Linda. It was a strange shock to come home and not have her here. I could hear her in my head saying, "Hello, Kimmers." And I wept. Sometimes I miss her so much my knees buckle. I will start writing soon. I think. I'm still tired. Weary. Figuring stuff out. Happy days to you all. 4 comments

Thursday, February 01, 2007

Fight Global Warming: April 14 

Okay, first I'll tell you about this. Then I'll vacate. Joanna had this on her blog, and you know I think this is the single most important problem we are facing as members of the Gaia tribe. We have to be more active to fix this; we can't just make changes on a personal level because we aren't the biggest problem. We have to change laws so that big businesses stop polluting. Bill McKibben is part of a day of nationwide action on global warming. (Remember Bill McKibben? He wrote the End of Nature.) Our country is one of the worst polluters and contributors to global warming, so things need to change here.

(Mario just came by and laughed at me. He said, "Well, at least you didn't post in your sleep." I am now going fishing.) 1 comments

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